BLM: Ten Years Later
The Black Lives Matter movement has been around for 10 years now. It has been a movement that wants black liberation for all black people being firmly against police brutality. It has its supporters and critics. Many conservatives criticize BLM on cultural and social issues claiming it ignores the value of black fathers and attacks the nuclear family (proponents of BLM deny this charge). Many progressives criticize BLM on strategic and political issues claiming that it is too decentralized and was a victim of co-option by the Democratic Party establishment including capitalist corporations in general. So, the truth is more nuisance. The Black Lives Matter movement was right to advocate against police brutality and for the freedom of all black people heroically. The issue is that BLM, as time went on, became too decentralized in not forming a firm, long-lasting infrastructure to stand up against oppression, its omission of the importance of black fathers (citing villages is fine but praising black mothers and black fathers equally is also revolutionary), and many members (not all members) being co-opted by neo-liberal establishment forces (as we shall show later on). The vast majority of Black Lives Matter members are not frauds. They are sincere people in the BLM movement who believe that they are just good people in standing up against oppression, racism, and injustice. We saw massive protests made by black people and non-black people legitimately fighting against police brutality, racism, economic exploitation, bigotry, and all forms of oppression in Norfolk, in NYC, in Philadelphia, in Dallas, in London, in Berlin, in Los Angeles, in Seattle, in Richmond, in Miami, in Pittsburgh, etc. back in the year of 2020 during the George Floyd protests. That is inspirational, and that act should be commended. Many conservatives are wrong to say that the BLM movement collectively want riots to destroy America when police terror is the definition of a terrorist riot.
BLM is right to condemn Donald Trump as an authoritarian fascist (Trump has threatened to come down on the media, abolish the Constitution, and promote anti-democratic policies overtly). Trump still believes in the lie that the 2020 election was stolen. The vast majority of anti-racism and anti-police brutality protests have been peaceful. Likewise, critique (like disagreeing with one founder saying that she is a Marxist activist. Karl Marx was a racist, a self-loathing anti-Semitic extremist, and religious bigot who shouldn't be honored as a hero. Marx had explicitly written that he wanted religion to be abolished in society which is anti-democratic as people have the right to believe in religion or not in a free and open society) is necessary for any human analysis of social movements as no human is immune from legitimate critique (without ad hominem attacks). Therefore, I wanted to show what Black Lives Matter did right and show critiques in order to put the historic movement into context. That is just poignant and fair.
The Start
How did the Black Lives Matter movement start? First, it started in phases. After the deaths of Malcolm X in 1965, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. in 1968, Fred Hampton in 1969, and countless black people, black America was at a crossroads. The Civil Rights Movement from 1954 to 1968 was the Moses Generation seeing the end of overt bondage but not witnessing the Promised Land yet. The era of Moses was the time when black people in a grassroots fashion executed unprecedented boycotts, self-defense, and mass demonstrations to call for equality and justice. Just before the late Dr. King died, he shifted a little and called for reparations, an end to the Vietnam War, the building of black-owned institutions, and a radical redistribution of economic and political power. The Joshua Generation is part of us. We, who are in this Joshua generation, saw the Jordan River and crossed it into the beginning steps of the Promised Land. Yet, we have not seen justice for all or the full breadth of the Promised Land yet (as economic inequality, book bans, voter suppression, education disparities, health disparities, etc. exist in 2023). During this time, we saw black people reach the heights of popularity, influence, and cultural growth. Yet, our overall wealth has stagnated as economic inequality has grown worldwide. It is fine to have a job but ultimately, we need to have institutions, we need a better environment, we need to fight poverty, we need to improve our health care, and we need the overall structure of society to change in benefiting the people collectively (not just a small minority of human beings).
The Black Lives Matter movement combined the grassroots, decentralized institution of SNCC mixed with the progressive segment of the Black Power Movement combined. The Black Lives Matter movement was created in July 2013 by three human beings who are Patrisse Cullors, Alicia Garza, and Opal Tometi. At first, the Black Lives Matter Network was an online platform that existed to provide activists with a shared set of principles and goals. It came after the verdict of George Zimmerman after he murdered Trayvon Martin (in 2012 in Florida. I was 29 years old during that time and remember that time like yesterday) which caused huge outrage in the black community and freedom-loving people everywhere. By July of 2013, the hashtag of #BlackLivesMatter was on social media. The jury acquitted George Zimmerman. This caused a massive movement to grow. Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi were adamantly clear in opposing the police killings of innocent black people. Garza made the hashtag of #BlackLivesMatter. The campaign of Black Lives Matter grew. In 2013, the Black Lives Matter organization was starting to bloom, and 2014 would change everything for Black Lives Matter and the black freedom movement in general. In 2014, Michael Brown was shot and killed by the police in Ferguson, Missouri.
The Department of Justice would later document massive racism and economic oppression done by law enforcement against the people of Ferguson (especially against the black residents of Ferguson, Missouri). In that year, Black Lives Matter members and activists from all over the globe came to Ferguson to protest injustice. Many rebellions happened in Ferguson on such a scale never witnessed in American history since the 1992 rebellion in Los Angeles. The National Guard came into Ferguson and used tear gas, sound weapons, and other tactics to control the crowds. Yet, no one can stop freedom and truth. Much of the rebellions included unjust violence against innocent property. I don't agree with that (as people, building our own infrastructure and institutions is better than burning and destroying innocent property. Destroying innocent property has nothing to do with self-defense or fighting a just cause because the state readily exploits that to pass even more authoritarian laws which makes oppression even worse), but people have every right to be outraged at racism and police brutality without apology. People have every right to protest, use civil disobedience, and use self-defense. The vast majority of the Ferguson protests were peaceful.
Later, Darren Wilson, the officer who killed Michael Brown would not be convicted. In July of 2014, Eric Garner was killed in New York City after a policeman put him in a chokehold while arresting him. Protests existed in New York City and globally over such a cowardly act. Later, Black Lives Matter co-founder Patrisse Cullors organized the Black Life Matters Ride, which had about 600 people and sparked the founding of more localized Black Lives Matter groups. Soon, Black Lives Matter would have international chapters in many countries on the Earth. In 2014, the police killed Dontre Hamilton, John Crawford III, Ezell Ford, Laquan McDonald, Akai Gurley, Antonio Martin, Jerame Reid, etc. By December of 2014, many people protested the killing of unarmed black people by the police in the Mall of America in Bloomington, Minnesota in 2000-3000 people in protest.
Growing Pains
In the year of 2015, there were more incidents of police killings of black people in America. In that year, Freddie Gray died in custody in Baltimore, Maryland. Baltimore later experienced its largest rebellion since 1968. Freddie Gray was a victim of economic oppression and racial injustice. Economic inequality has been found in many areas of Baltimore and worldwide. This economic inequality contributed heavily to many of the social and political problems founded in oppressed, marginalized communities. Walter Scott, Meagan Hockaday were also killed by the police. Black Lives Matters readily acknowledges the LGBTQ+ community (as Cullors and Garza are part of the LGBTQ+ community) which is why they make it known about the 21 transgender people who were killed in America in 2015 alone (13 of the victims were black people). By May of 2015, a Black Lives Matter in San Francisco was part of the SayHerName movement. SayHerName is about the goal of shining the light on the plight of black women and black girls being abused, raped, and murdered by the police and other folks. They made people be aware of the deaths of Meagan Hockaday, Aiyana Jones, Rekia Boyd, and other human beings. By June of 2015, the racist Dylann Roof murdered many black people in a historically black church in Charleston, South Carolina. The black victims of the Charleston church just wanted to peacefully worship God in their own capacities. They were innocent people who loved life, and their souls are always valuable in the Universe. Many people protested and held vigils. About 800 people protested in McKinney, Texas after a video showed officers pinning down a girl at a pool party in Texas. People protested the death of Sandra Bland too who was found hanged in a jail cell in Waller County, Texas. By August of 2015, Janelle Monae, Jidenna, and other BLM activists marched through North Philadelphia to bring awareness of police brutality and Black Lives Matter.
In 2016, Black Lives Matter grew further organizing protests against police brutality and racism against black people. The police killings of Deborah Danner, Korryn Gaines, Sylville Smith, Terence Crucher, Alfred Olango, Alton Sterling, and other black human beings happened. Early July of 2016 witnessed over 100 protests across America after Sterling's death on July 5th, 2016, and Philando Castile's shooting the next day. 2016 also saw an increased number of celebrities like athletes speaking out in favor of Black Lives Matter like LeBron James, Dwyane Wade, and Carmelo Anthony (who opened the awards ceremony in July 2016 by saying "Enough is Enough"). From 2016, in August onward, many people knelled to protest the national anthem at sports games. It started with Colin Kaepernick who knelt during the anthem ahead of an NFL game. The USA national anthem was created by a white racist slave owner from Baltimore named Francis Scott Key (the original national anthem condoned slavery overtly). By February 2017 (on Black History Month), Black History Month was celebrated in America. In 2017, Black Lives Matter put on their first art exhibition to celebrate Black History Month in the state of Virginia. It featured the work of over 30 black artists and creators. Black Lives Matter protests continue in America after the officer accused of killing Philando Castile was found not guilty.
2017 was the historic year of the first year of the racist Trump Presidency. It would be the Summer of 2017 when anti-Semites and white racists were involved in the Unite The Right rally in Charlottesville, Virginia to promote racist Confederate monuments on public lands. I am a black man from Virginia, so I know racism firsthand in Virginia. By August of 2017, Black Lives Matter were among the counter-protestors who desired racial justice. Later, racists assaulted peaceful anti-racist protesters, and one innocent woman was murdered by a Neo-Nazi in Charlottesville. The woman's name is Heather Meyer. Donald Trump said that there were good people on both sides causing widespread condemnation. In 2018, Cullors told ABC News in an interview that Black Lives Matter helped to promote civil disobedience in America. She said that the Black Lives Matter movement is the foundation of movements like Women's March, Me Too, and March for Our Lives (fighting for gun control). This was the 5th year anniversary of Black Lives Matter.
Greachrio Mack and Kenneth Ross Jr. were killed by the police in 2018. By February of 2019, hip-hop artist 21 Savage was arrested and detained by the U.S. Immigration agency of ICE. Cullors convened a group of 60 high-profile stars from the music and entertainment arenas to advocate for his release. In May of 2019, Oklahoma teenager Isaiah Lewis was shot by the police and killed. Days later. Black Lives Matter held a 100-strong rally in protest.
Successes and Problems
By 2020, it was a new era of the black freedom movement. 2020 saw the largest anti-police brutality and anti-racism protests in human history. It was that large. These protests came after the recorded death of George Floyd in Minneapolis. The video showed a police officer kneeling on Floyd's neck for minutes. The cop's name is Derek Chauvin, who was charged with 2nd-degree murder. The other 2 officers involved were charged too. In 2020, Breonna Taylor was killed by an officer in Louisville, Kentucky too. Derek Chauvin was convicted for his crimes which was a crucial victory in the movement for justice. Black Lives Matter also organized protests in London after Floyd's murder. Aima who was 18 and Tash who was 21 organized a rally in Trafalgar Square. Millions of people protested in New York City, Los Angeles, Miami, Berlin, Philadelphia, Houston, etc. John Boyega joined 15,000 people in Hyde Park to stand up for the dignity of George Floyd, Sandra Bland, etc. In America alone in 2020, there were about 15-26 million people who participated in the 2020 Black Lives Matter protests.
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By November of 2020, Joe Biden won the Presidential election winning Nevada, Georgia, Arizona, and other states in a historic fashion. Black people voted in large numbers to cause Biden to win against Trump. After the 2021 January 6th insurrection, the Black Lives Matter movement was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by Norwegian MP Petter Eide. By April 20, 2021, former police officer Derek Chauvin was found guilty on all three counts of killing Goerge Floyd. Crowds worldwide celebrated. George Floyd's brother Philonise Floyd and Darnella Fraizer (who recorded the video) celebrated. By May 25, 2023, Floyd's family met with Biden in the White House. By January 2022, the three men who killed Ahmaud Arbery were sentenced to life in prison. President Biden promoted policies addressing police reform. In 2023, now we experience 10 years of the Black Lives Matter movement. We have a long way to go as Trumpism with the MAGA movement has caused another resurgence of far-right extremism. Now, only 51 percent of adults in America support Black Lives Matter in 2023. Back in 2020, about 67 percent of Americans supported the Black Lives Matter movement.
The Major Scandal
The Black Lives Matter movement has been a victim of two major scandals. They have survived both scandals, but BLM will never be the same afterward. The first scandal was made by conservatives and Hoteps who hate BLM views because they believe that some people (not all people) should have basic human rights. They are wrong because all human beings should have equality and basic human freedoms from birthright. Equality and justice don't have asterisks next to them. Many of the conservatives and Hoteps made the charge that George Soros funds Black Lives Matter directly, Soros is a bad character, and therefore BLM is discredited as an authentic freedom-loving organization. The lie from them is that George Soros is the ultimate puppet master funding every aspect of Black Lives Matter. Many people who believe in this lie are blatantly anti-Semites who use Soros in a coded fashion in order to disguise their hatred of Jewish people.
What is the truth? George Soros is a Hungarian-American billionaire investor and philanthropist. He donated billions of dollars to the Open Society Foundation. The Open Society Foundation funds many people and movements, including many progressive causes. The Open Society has funded groups like the Organization for Black Struggle, Missourians Organizing for Reform and Empowerment, and funded the Tides Foundation. Yet, the Open Society Foundation doesn't fund every organization linked to the Black Lives Matter movement. Some believe that Soros was a former Nazi which is false and a slander. Soros and his family were Hungarian Jewish people who were trying to flee the Nazis during World War II. Soros never swore to destroy America either. Soros doesn't own and control ANTIFA and Black Lives Matter. BLM is a very decentralized organization. The Black Lives Matter organization is also international being created by Opal Tometi, Patrisse Cullors, and Alicia Garza. Many far-right people accused Soros of paying for protesters after Trump's election which is false. The truth is that the Open Society Foundation funds progressive causes, but Soros is not some elite controller of Black Lives Matter as BLM is a highly horizontal, independent organization.
The other scandal is the obvious one. It's the elephant in the room. This came about years ago. The BLM co-founder Patrisse Marie Khan-Cullors Birgnac has been accused by many on the far right of many things. It started in 2021. Some media circles accused Cullors or people associated with her for purchasing many homes during a five-year period. Her critics say that she is using the Black Lives Matter movement to enrich herself and her family while calling her a hypocrite for purchasing the houses as someone who calls herself a Marxist. Cullors has responded forcibly by saying that she didn't do anything wrong. She said that her actions are about taking care of her family and the criticism has been an effort (according to her) to discredit and harass her and her family by the political right. By April 13, 2021, the Black Lives Matter Global Network Foundation denied that it had paid for her purchases of real estate. They said that didn't paid her since 2019 and she only received $120,000 since 2013 for carrying out her work related to the organization. Her other brother Paul, a graffiti artist and founded Cullors Protection LLC, received $840,000 from BLMGNF for security and consulting. Cullors defended hiring her brother, saying registered security firms that hired former police officers could not be trusted.
Some BLM activists accused her of "monopolizing and capitalizing our fight." Ten local chapters of the Foundation claimed that Cullors became its executive director “against the will of most chapters and without their knowledge,” that chapter organizers were prevented from influencing the group's direction, and that the national organization provided little to no financial support for local chapters since its inception in 2013. Cullors resigned from leadership of the Foundation the next month, and later revealed psychological exhaustion from the controversy, stating that she was receiving treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder.
In 2022, she denied allegations of misusing donations given to the Black Lives Matter Global Network Foundation but admitted that she hosted two parties at a mansion the BLM Foundation purchased for $6 million, which she regretted. The lesson about these stories is that any social movement must have advisors (in dealing with leadership, accountability, economics, and having plans to deal with controversies). You can't be too decentralized which increases the risk of errors to exist. As the viewer, look at all the evidence and make up your own mind. What are my views? My views are that Patrisse should have used more wide judgments financially, even if she did nothing illegal or immoral. Also, how can she claim to be a Marxist and want to have a deal with Warner Brothers to promote her own documentaries and stories? Warner Brothers is the epitome of a capitalist enterprise. Also, Karl Marx is no role model for any progressive or anyone of any background. Karl Marx was a racist, anti-Semitic religious bigot who spewed hatred of humanity constantly in his life. The Communist Manifesto, Marx announced a war on eternal truths, religion, and morality in his own following quotation, “There are, besides, eternal truths, such as Freedom, Justice, etc., that are common to all states of society. But Communism abolishes eternal truths, it abolishes all religion, and all morality, instead of constituting them on a new basis; it therefore acts in contradiction to all past historical experience.” The previous words from Karl Marx in quotations are from his book The Communist Manifesto in Chapter 2. The reality is that we believe in morality, eternal truths, and religious freedom. Marx spoke of his own son-in-law, Paul Lafargue, husband of his daughter Laura in offensive terms. Paul came from Cuba, born in Santiago, and Marx thus Marx called him slurs like “Negrillo” or “the Gorilla.” In November 1882, still 14 years after Lafargue and Laura married, Marx wrote to Engels the following racist words, “Lafargue has the blemish customarily found in the negro tribe — no sense of shame, by which I mean shame about making a fool of oneself.” So, no black person or any person of any color period should respect Karl Marx at all.
When on holiday in Ramsgate in 1879, Karl Marx reported to Engels that the resort contained “many Jews and fleas" which is straight up anti-Semitism. In an earlier letter to Engels, Marx referred to Ferdinand Lassalle as a “Jewish n____.” Marx’s essay, On the Jewish Question, originally published in 1844 contains the following anti-Semitic screed: "What is the worldly religion of the Jew? Huckstering. What is his worldly God? Money.…. Money is the jealous god of Israel, in face of which no other god may exist. Money degrades all the gods of man – and turns them into commodities…. The bill of exchange is the real god of the Jew. His god is only an illusory bill of exchange…. The chimerical nationality of the Jew is the nationality of the merchant, of the man of money in general..." Engels was a racist too. In an April 1887 letter to Paul’s wife, Engels cruelly opined, “Being in his quality as a n___, a degree nearer to the rest of the animal kingdom than the rest of us, he is undoubtedly the most appropriate representative of that district.” That is why while I am a progressive on economic issues, I repudiate Marxism. Marxism by Karl Marx's own words is anti-eternal truth and anti-morality. Now, if I knew of this information for years, don't you think many Marxists know these facts. Many do and some still praise Marx which is totally hypocritical. It is important to note that Karl Marx didn't invent Communism. Centuries before Marx was born, communist thought existed. I believe in freedom of conscience, so people have the right to be Communist or not in a free and open society. I don't agree with every aspect of Communism, but I don't believe in McCarthyism either. I certainly don't view capitalism as infallible either as I have my critiques of capitalism too. To make change, you have to embrace moral principles and integrity.
Praise and Legitimate Critique
Also, it is important to give credit to the Black Lives Matter movement in many areas. Black Lives Matter helped to give new strength and vigor to the overall black freedom struggle. It has galvanized many people to protest and work in organizations to fight back against racism and oppression in general. Its fruit has been the conviction of the murderer of George Floyd. It has been an inspiration for so many human beings who desire hope for the future. Black Lives Matter gave many men, women, and children the opportunities to express their frustrations at evil and do something about it in constructive avenues like making art, being an activist, working in schools, using almsgiving, and going into the political realm in desiring political change. There are many critiques of the movement too. One issue is that Black Lives Matter seems to be too decentralized. There is nothing wrong with some decentralization as we don't want one person to control a whole movement restricting egalitarian power. Yet, there must be a structure where leaders arise to clearly articulate not only policies and goals but how they will get to those goals. As Carson Clayborne has said,
"One thing that I think everyone would agree on is that the young people who are sparking these protests have no single charismatic, supremely articulate leader. One of the consequences is they don’t control the messaging of it. I think that is one of the weaknesses of Black Lives Matter. There is no established leadership to articulate messages. What is the goal? Is it simply to express anger or is to achieve reform about police behavior? If it is to bring about reform, then what would that look like? It doesn’t have to be one charismatic spokesperson. It could be many leaders, but there needs to be people saying, ‘This is what we want’ and clearly articulating that. That’s just not happening now with any consistency."
Another issue is that many corporate interests and corporate political party interests seek to infiltrate BLM and turn it into a political arm of the establishment instead of existing as a politically independent movement. Also, many BLM advisors use the offensive, disrespectful slogan of "We are not our ancestors." The truth is that our ancestors were some of the most courageous people in human history and their sacrifice should never be downplayed or disrespected by anyone period.
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Epilogue
The Black Lives Matter movement came about in 2013. The reality is that BLM is in the early stages of its growth. For example, the NAACP has been around for over 100 years. The Chicago Defender newspaper has been around for decades. Ebony and Jet have been around for decades too. So, we have to wait and see what Black Lives Matter will evolve into to comprehensively evaluate its long-term legacy. During the times of the Hamas and Israeli war, BLM has been clear to defend Palestinian human rights. What Hamas did to Israeli civilians has no justification. Hamas is a terrorist organization whose leaders want to not only make Israel not exist at all, but one leader said that they want Christians and Jewish people to be ruled by radical extremists. For example, Senior Hamas Official Mahmoud Al-Zahar on December 12, 2022, said that he wants the entire planet to follow Hamas's law and desire no more Jewish people and no more Christian "traitors." That will never happen. Also, the dignity of Palestinian human life must be respected. There is no excuse for the occupation of the West Bank and Gaza. There is no excuse for some far-right Israelis advocating leveling Gaza and other racist rhetoric against Palestinian people. There is no excuse for cutting off water, electricity, etc. in Gaza that will harm human life. There is no excuse for massive checkpoints, massive travel restrictions, and other anti-democratic policies against Palestinians in the West Bank. Therefore, we have to be real in the situation and advocate for real liberation for Israelis and Palestinians in the region without occupation. People shouldn't blame every action by the Israeli government on every Israeli or every Jewish person on Earth. The humanitarian crisis in Gaza is just a tragedy. Isaac Herzog is a liar to blame the Palestinian people for Hamas's evil actions. There is a distinction between Hamas terrorists (I don't agree with one chapter of BLM showing an image of a Hamas glider when Hamas murdered innocent men, women, children, and babies. That chapter used sarcasm, not a true apology later as well) and Palestinian people fighting for survival literally. Therefore, as a black person, I believe in Black Lives. I believe in oppressed people being free from injustice. Like always, Black Lives Matter.
Relationships
At first, I didn't want to mention anything about this topic (because this topic has been shown on the Internet constantly. A lot of experts have made books, podcasts, and studies on human relationships for decades now), but it has been about 10 years since I made an in-depth commentary on the topic on relationships and the gender war scam harming both men and women worldwide. Something in my subconscious mind inspired me to write on this subject. To make a resolution, we have to call out evil and promote goodness first. Silence is not an option when we have to confront our issues as human beings. Presently, it is the perfect opportunity to express my thoughts on this important topic indeed. It's been a long time expressing social commentaries on this important subject matter. I dedicate these words to my black ancestors, my friends, and my community including all freedom-loving people of the world (who are of every color and background). I also dedicate every syllable that I typed here to Almighty God who caused all life to exist. All of these words are for his glory. Also, I wanted these facts to be accessible to the younger generation in order to give them advice and inspiration to carry forward with their destinies that they deserve to live upon. I want to use this information as a way to reflect my views on this issue in 2023. The gender war situation is a lie that believes that humans of the opposite sex are eternal enemies that must be scapegoated, scorned, dehumanized, and rejected as equal human beings (perpetual conflict is promoted in the wicked gender war instead of rational solutions in unifying the human family in love, community, progressive thought, solutions, and togetherness). I still have the same views back then of rejecting gender war misinformation and propaganda. Over 10 years ago, I refuted sexists on the Internet on relationship topics, and I will continue to do so. As you all know, my core convictions have remained the same. I still believe in justice for all, in environmental protection, in universal health care, in reparations for black people, in ending imperialism, in religious freedom, in civil liberties, in economic justice, in Pan African unity, and in true Black Love.
Exposing the Evil Gender War
When did this nonsense start? Thousands of years ago, human beings existed in the world fighting for survival. Civilizations grew rapidly in the four corners of the Earth. By the time of the Holocene epoch (or the start of our modern era of world history), the Ice Age ended, and the rising sea temperature grew. When civilizations grew in the global regions of Africa, Asia, Europe, the Americas, and Australia (like ancient Egypt, ancient Sumeria, ancient China, ancient Olmec culture, ancient Nubia, ancient Greece, etc.). There were similarities in these cultures from temples, language, and societal roles because we humans have the same origin. Back in ancient times, there were righteous people who treated men and women as equals, but even back then there was massive oppression against men and women. The minimization of the power and importance of women always causes harm to civilization because no one is free until all people are free to achieve their destinies as human beings. That is why I believe that women collectively suffer more oppression than men collectively because of the dynamics of sexism (and other factors) which has existed throughout human history. In modern times, we have an epidemic of rape in America, Europe, India, and worldwide. Statistics back this up.
For example, according to the CDC, over half of all women and almost 1 in 3 men experienced sexual violence involving physical contact during their lifetimes. One in 4 women and about 1 in 26 men according to the CDC have experienced rape or attempted rape in America. Even recently, there was a settlement made between Cassie and Diddy over Cassie accusing him of sexual assault and domestic violence. 1 in 3 women and about 1 in 9 men experienced sexual harassment in a public place. These are just the cases being reported, so the statistics are much higher among women and men. This doesn't mean that men don't experience rape, but statistics document how women suffer more rape than men. No man and no woman should be raped, abused, or oppressed period. Laws made to prevent equality among the sexes existed long before America was a nation. In ancient Rome, women couldn't vote or hold political office. During the Medieval times in Europe, many women were unfairly treated as a vassal. There were many equal statuses given to women in many pre-agricultural societies. In U.S. law, American women were not legally defined as "persons" until 1875 (in Minor v. Happersett, 88 U.S. 162). This reality doesn't mean that men suffered nothing, but it does mean that history proves that misogyny and patriarchal capitalist supremacist systems have harmed societies for centuries and thousands of years. Nothing is new under the sun.
Social movements for human equality stood up for centuries and thousands of years. Rational people agree with women having the right to vote, but that never existed in America until the 20th century. Rational people agree with women owning homes and having jobs with equal pay, but tons of women didn't have those opportunities as late as the early to mid-20th century, especially black women. Some women don't have true equal pay now in 2023. Feminism got incels, manosphere types, and other sexists so angry that that word is the most offensive word to them. They believe in the lie that feminism itself is responsible to all problems men deal with and all things under the sun in general. The truth is that feminism is very diverse, and the concept of feminism just means equality among all sexes and backgrounds. The common lie promoted by manosphere types is that since white racist feminists and racist suffragettes exist in the world (or agents like former CIA agent Gloria Steinem and even Susan Brownmiller lied about Emmett Till as a potential rapist), so feminism falls apart as a social ideology. The truth is that white racist suffragettes have abhorrent views and should not be respected, but many women supported the right to vote and equality from Ida B. Wells (who exposed white racist suffragettes) to Fannie Lou Hamer. Feminism doesn't mean hatred of men, but it does acknowledge male privilege and the role of some men (not every man) in the oppression of women. I think nuisance is omitted by the sexist crowd. Later, by the end of the 20th century and the 21st century, sexism has been promoted by corporations, shock jocks, YouTube personalities, and other controversial people. Tom Leykis is one of the old-school sexists who used his radio platform to promote sexism and stereotypes about women. A new school sexist in the 21st century promoting red pill lies is Andrew Tate, who was recently accused of sex trafficking in Romania. Andrew Tate made many lies saying that no real men live in Canada, that depression isn't real, and he admitted in an interview that "I am absolutely sexist and I'm absolutely a misogynist." It is what it is. We have to call out these frauds. Red pill advocates, MGTOW advocates (which is a hate group that seeks to end relationships among men and women. MGTOW stands for Men Going Their Own Way), and others in that crew have differences, but they are similar in having hostility towards women, embracing negative stereotypes of women (which has lied that women don't know STEM, every woman is selfish, every woman hates a righteous man, etc.), and seeks men to be Machiavellian in having advancement.
The Dignity of Relationships
The reality is that men and women should be themselves and have a sense of power and altruism in making the world better by their own merit. The MGOTW movement is wrong, because they embrace the most negative views about women without realizing the diverse personalities of women. Women are never monolithic. Also, there is no benefit in permanent benefit in the total isolation of human beings (as MGOTW and red pill extremists readily advocate) as the improvement of humanity can come by connection, development, and a sense of purpose in helping people. Women aren't machines in a slot machine that you can push a button to make wishes come true. Women (like men) are human beings with intellects, feelings, dignity, worth, and value that ought to be respected. These characteristics define men too. Many women haters and misogynists are popular among a certain segment of the world's population like Andrew Tate and even the late Kevin Samuels advocated domestic discipline against women (which is domestic violence. Kevin Samuels also disrespected women's physical appearances and implied that black women are less attractive which is a lie. Kevin believed in a number scale to define low or high-value people which is the antithesis of human equality. Black women are the most beautiful women on Earth in my view).
The pickup artist propaganda (in advancing nefarious principles) is known to ruin many relationships. There are many red flags for sexists who lecture women on how to be women (when women are perfectly qualified to speak about womanhood by themselves by birth), on talking about high and low-value people (when all people are created equal) and promote colorism (when beauty is diverse found in all hues, especially in black people. Eurocentric beauty standards are antithetical to truth). Many sexists are promoted by YouTube and corporate power from DJ Akademiks (who disrespected SZA and claims to be the "prize." He is a Trump supporter too who sometimes gets drunk and curses anyone out who disagrees with him), Tariq Nasheed (who made recent sexist and xenophobic remarks against Jasmine Crockett as Nasheed is a supporter of the FBA movement, which is filled with numerous xenophobic people. Nasheed once said that black single women aren't entitled to reparations. He hypocritically condemns interracial relationships using a slur, but his wife is a product of an interracial relationship. His sister is married to a person who is not black either. So, I honor Black Love without calling people slurs who happen to be in an interracial relationship), Charleston White, etc.
As for black people, black women and black men aren't responsible for the Maafa, the War on Drugs, and other evils in our communities collectively. In recent decades, many sexists promote the lie that black single mothers are responsible for all family dysfunction and all problems in the black community in general. That is false as black single mothers are victims of a white racist system that harms both black men and black women in similar plus different ways. Tons of black single mothers have raised amazing children too. Misogyny harms men too. In fact, misogyny (which spreads by capitalist exploitation) causes the crisis of many men, because some men believe in the myth that they must be brutes, aggressive in a toxic way, and intolerable to be a "real man." Many in the manosphere are right that there is a crisis among men, but they are wrong about the origin and solution of this problem. The origin of this problem isn't women but a select group of sexist men who desire oppression to reign in society. Authors like Scott Galloway, Annie Lowrey, and Christine Emba wrote on this crisis in men in articles and books. These men and women are scholars and experts who have done their research. For example, boys start school less prepared than girls and are less likely to graduate from high school and attend or graduate from college.
One in seven men reports having no friends. Three of every four deaths of despair in America are men dying from suicides and drug overdoses. Boys have fewer male role models. The prison industrial complex has harmed men, including black men, for decades in America alone. The prison system is filled with rape, abuse, exploitation, corruption, and psychological trauma inflicted on human life. Women in prisons suffer these same evil experiences too. Toxic masculinity is not true masculinity or healthy masculinity. True masculinity is about developing power, integrity, and positive influences to help, protect, and advocate for human beings not oppressing anyone. The crisis among men caused many men to have trouble expressing communication cogently with people (in growing their own vocabulary), and many men fall prey to incels, xenophobes, and other extremists like Andrew Tate, Anton Daniels, Tariq Nasheed, Charleston White, etc. This crisis is not caused by women but by a cutthroat system that focuses on dehumanization instead of respect for all human life. What is the solution to end this crisis? There must be investments in apprenticeships and trade schools for men and women, there must be investments in more male positive role models to help boys, there must be a progressive promotion of mental health programs for men and boys, economic progressive policies must exist, and there must be education in social conduct among boys and men (in forming relationships, cultural groups, religious groups, and meeting people in general). There are many scholars who want human beings to reduce stress, get adequate sleep, be respectful in table environments, improve hygiene, improve grammar or vocabulary, improve health, be honest, take reasonable risks, accept accountability, promote respect, and treat people right. These people are right.
I don't agree with Olivia Alexa on every issue (I disagree with her in saying most women will never respect men, and she saying that the majority of women not knowing what a good man is. She has many conservative views on relationships in general), but she is right on saying these following jewels: attraction is not a negotiation (i.e. if a woman if not interested in you as a man, don't waste your time and keep it moving to date women who are attracted to you), men should carve their own path to be the men that they want to be (by improving your personality, economics, health, and character), sex by itself is not enough to keep someone, men should keep their honor intact, and having success of men dating women has no shortcuts (it takes work). Olivia Alexa is right that people should show their worth by communicating in an effective way by using actions and words. The truth is that a woman can't love a man she doesn't respect. So, a woman or a man should date someone who respects him or her. That means that if a man wants to date or marry a woman, that woman should respect him and be attracted to him. If a woman wants to date or marry a man, that man should respect her and be attracted to her. I do believe that Olivia Alexa sincerely wants to help men in the dating situation through her vibe, her insights, and her energy. The beauty of the situation is that we don't have to agree with everyone to appreciate legitimate insights on relationships shown by a human being like Olivia Alexia. She is also right to mention that, "A woman can always tell if a man loves her by how much time he is willing to invest. Money spent is meaningless, but time spent is priceless." In other words, the money will come (many folks can save thousands of dollars in a short period of time), but what lasts for a lifetime is time spent with your lover.
Money is one of the most contentious parts of relationships and living life in general. A balanced approach involving money is necessary to have healthy connections to exist in the human family. The reason is that it is false to assume that money means everything in life (as life is a journey filled with adventure, learning wisdom, humor, love, travel, tests, etc.), and it's also false to assume that money is insignificant in life. Money is a tool that can be used for good (like building homes, investing in communities, promoting charities, and growing generational wealth) or for evil (like money laundering, theft, financial corruption, and other nefarious activities involving money). Therefore, we should use money as a tool to grow relationships, grow investments, and seek positive change, but money shouldn't be deified. Money is not God. Money isn't infallible. When you are born on this Earth, you have no money. When you pass away, you won't have any money either. That precisely means that we can make and use money for constructive means, but we should never allow the money to make us. Money doesn't define us as we are defined by our character, our actions, our thoughts, our essence as human beings, and our love of truth. In any long-term relationship or marriage, finances will be discussed. Financial advisors and counselors are gifted in helping tons of couples with their economic situations. Therefore, planning on investments, saving accounts, 401(k)s, retirement saving plans, Medicare, stocks, bonds, and other economic resources is very useful in functioning in a complex world. My advice for young men and young women is to invest your money as soon as possible. Saving a little money per month can cause thousands of dollars in the bank in less than 10 years or less than 5 years (along with expanding wealth into multiple banks including earning multiple streams of income). There is a difference between legitimate financial planning and materialism. Materialism makes money an idol that readily ends up in reckless behavior, massive loss of resources, instability, and ironically many people face destitution after excessive materialism. I reject materialism and poor shaming 100 percent (as poor human beings need respect, opportunities, solutions, and compassion, not disrespect or dehumanization). At the end of the day, money alone can't force a woman to like a man. People need character, personality, interests, and other personal characteristics like your heart to attract a lover. If your heart and interests are real, you can attract real human beings to gravitate towards you.
Education about intellectual growth, health development, and emotional strength are key concepts to promote in inspiring men and women to reach their highest potential as human beings. We are human, we are bio-chemical beings, we have a prefrontal cortex filled with intellectual power, and we are born to be social. That is why it is important for us, as human beings, to be our best selves (growing up learning, vocabulary, empathy, health, personality, and emotional intelligence in general).
Discernment
The incel crew falsely blame women or feminism for relationship problems and their solutions are further entrenchment of misogyny and other forms of bigotry. We know about divorce and how many men, and many women struggle after divorce financially or emotionally. We all agree that tons of divorce settlements aren't 50-50. The incel/manosphere/red pill crew exploit the existence of divorce to say that any woman would benefit from a divorce by virtue of the court system being biased on gender. That is not the case. The truth is that men and women have diverse experiences from divorce. Some men suffer a bad deal from a divorce, and some women suffer a bad deal from a divorce. Many studies like the study from Thomas Leopold entitled, "Gender Differences in the Consequences of Divorce: A Study of Multiple Outcomes" back in 2018 from the Demography magazine found that findings suggest that, "...men's disproportionate strain of divorce is transient, whereas women's is chronic." According to the U.S. Government Accountability Office to the Senate, "Women's household income fell by an average of 41 percent with divorce, almost twice the size of the decline that men experienced." The U.S. Census mentioned that 20 percent of women all into poverty after a divorce compared to 11 percent of men. About 25 percent lose their health insurance temporarily. I know my tea now and my receipts. That's real talk. Some incels have gone beyond spewing hateful words to use rape, assault, and murder against women for decades now. That is why people who are liberals, conservatives, etc. agree that the corporate divorce industry is not working, and an alternative is necessary (like before marriage, a contract of responsibilities is established so the couple can have equitable rights and benefits from raising children to financial growth). Another problem with the Red Pill/manosphere movement is that it has a hostility toward marriage, towards a man loving a woman (a man loving a woman is not a simp), and relations between humans in general. The truth is that studies show that healthy marriages have financial, health, and emotional benefits for men and women. Therefore, marriage is a blessing in the eyes of God, and there is nothing wrong with people being married for the right reasons.
The truth is that we have a crisis among men and women in an evolving world. Women suffer oppression too from rape, pay inequality, lax maternity leave for mothers, sexual harassment, and degradation in media and other forms of entertainment worldwide. With automation and deindustrialization, many people lost their jobs or went into new jobs in a changing capitalistic economy. After World War II, veterans came back to America from Europe, Africa, and America. Families grew (with the Baby Boom causing Baby Boomers to be born literally), and the suburbs grew. Yet, racial oppression and sexual exploitation existed. The Bible of the manosphere and sexists is the Moynihan Report of 1965. I prefer the Kerner Commission report of 1967 instead of the Moynihan Report (which promoted the lie that single black women and black culture from the legacy of slavery, not the system of racism and economic oppression are responsible for many of the social problems in black families. Many scholars have debunked the report for years and decades). Daniel Patrick Moynihan is wrong, because racial inequality is not caused by a specific family structure (as both nuclear and single families can raise amazing children into great men and women) but by the political economy and institutional racism. African American activists like Pauli Murray criticized the report as promoting increasing economic opportunities for black men at the expense of getting rid of jobs from black women. The truth is that black men and black women deserve jobs and economic opportunities. The Moynihan Report made the misogynoir myth that tons of black women have made in 1965 when that isn't the case at all. Merrillee A. Dolan and other scholars have refuted the report too. The policies of the War on Drugs, redlining, discrimination, welfare reform, and other actions harmed black communities for decades and centuries not black women collectively or black men collectively. Men and women aren't monolithic. There are evil men and evil women from Candace Owens to Jesse Lee Peterson. Yet, evil people existing doesn't mean that men and women can never change. You have to give people the chance to change and be better human beings despite the past. According to black feminist scholar and activist Frances Beal in her work Double Jeopardy in 1969, this shows the dynamics of oppression against black men and black women:
"...Certain black men are maintaining that they have been castrated by society but that black women somehow escaped this persecution and even contributed to this emasculation. Let me state here and now that the black woman in America can justly be described as a "slave of a slave." By reducing the black man in America to such abject oppression, the black woman had no protector and was used, and is still being used in some cases, as the scapegoat for the evils that this horrendous system has perpetrated on black men. Her physical image has been maliciously maligned; she has been sexually molested and abused by the white colonizer; she has suffered the worst kind of economic exploitation, having been forced to serve as the white woman's maid and wet nurse for white offspring while her own children were more often than not, starving and neglected. It is the depth of degradation to be socially manipulated, physically raped, used to undermine your own household, and to be powerless to reverse this syndrome.
It is true that our husbands, fathers, brothers and sons have been emasculated, lynched and brutalized. They have suffered from the cruellest assault on mankind that the world has ever known. However, it is a gross distortion of fact to state that black women have oppressed black men. The capitalist system found it expedient to enslave and oppress them and proceeded to do so without signing any agreements with black women.
It must also be pointed out at this time, that black women are not resentful of the rise to power of black men. We welcome it. We see in it the eventual liberation of all black people from this corrupt system under which we suffer. Nevertheless, this does not mean that you have to negate one for the other. This kind of thinking is a product of miseducation; that it's either X or it's Y. It is fallacious reasoning that in order the black man to be strong, the black woman has to be weak.
Those who are exerting their "manhood" by telling black women to step back into a domestic, submissive role are assuming a counter-revolutionary position. Black women likewise have been abused by the system and we must begin talking about the elimination of all kinds of oppression. If we are talking about building a strong nation, capable of throwing off the yoke of capitalist oppression, then we are talking about the total involvement of every man, woman, and child, each with a highly developed political consciousness. We need our whole army out there dealing with the enemy and not half an army...."
*We all believe in wisdom and truth. Many gender war relationship "gurus" conflate issues to promote tension and deception. Numerous liars tried to smear anyone defending authentic Black Love as promoting "struggle love" or being a "mule." They use white anti-black slurs to disrespect black people who desire love and unity among black men and black women. The first lie of numerous gender war extremists is that we (who advocate healthy relationships) are "pick mes." The truth is that a "pick me" is a person who desires no accountability, no respect, and no standards to just be in a relationship (like a woman version of a simp. A simp, who is a man, is different than a great, confident man who loves a woman. A simp is a doormat, not a sincere black man who loves and protects black women. At the end of the day, tons of women love a man with assertiveness, leadership, courage, independent thought, and confidence that is without apology. You can be easygoing and kind with confidence). We desire black men and black women to have standards, to grow, to have accountability, and to show respect to each other. That is the opposite of a pick me. Their 2nd lie from gender war extremists is that we advocate "struggle love." We don't. We just reject materialism and a lust for egoism which contributes ironically enough to destitution. For example, the Great Recession of the 2000s wasn't caused by being frugal with money but by greed, materialism, and massive reckless behavior. We believe in dignity shown to all people, and we reject going out to advocate for a black person (or any human being of any color) to have no resources, no plan, and no aspirations to just get married randomly. We do reject poor shaming and advocate black men and black women to have resources to unite in marriage, without disrespecting the poor among us. Their 3rd lie from these extremists is that they say that we must dehumanize or bash either men or women in order to be real. We don't. We salute Harriet Tubman, Lashid4u, black women inventors, black women role models, black men heroes, and other black women heroes. The vast majority of black women and black men desire justice, want liberation, love tranquility, and seek righteousness in their own lives. We just disagree with BM and BW sellouts who mean us no good like Clarence Thomas (who is tied to Monsanto and has massive self-hatred), Candace Owens, Cynthia G (who ironically bashes black women who disagree with her), Tommy Sotomayor, Anton Daniels (who said the lie that racism doesn't matter anymore when black people are victims of racism globally today. He also promotes the lie that men and women can't be friends. That's silly), Charleston White, etc. This distinction and nuisance are what the divestors and the red pill extremists don't get. They are anti-black and it shows. Yet, the truth is that we want justice for black people to live a great life.
Inspiration
The common argument by sexists is that since unmarried birth rates increasing because single mothers are to blame. Sexists believe in the old lie by any single mother by definition will promote dysfunction in society. The truth is that according to Ta-Nehisi Coates's article, "Understanding Out of Wedlock Births in Black America," there is a high number of children born by unmarried mothers, the birthrate for black women has declined, and married women of every color are going down by percentage (since 1970). So, the trend is that fewer people are getting married (among every color in America) because of conscious choices not because of a conspiracy of single mothers to ruin the black community. If we want more marriage rates in America, then we have to change the policies that invest in growing marriages not using force to make people get married if they don't want to. Likewise, children need parents. Mothers and fathers are important, so mothers and fathers should always be given just tools to raise their children. The large corporations causing wealth inequality and gentrification didn't originate from black single mothers or feminists but from the corporate 1 percent. When you see a person blaming black men or black women collectively for every problem in the black community, that person is an agent like Tommy Sotomayor (who sexualized the death of black people and made outrageous sexist comments for over 10 years now) and Cynthia G (who called Fantasia ugly and said 90 percent of all black men are trash, and Cynthia G has a hatred of those who believe in God. For the record, Fantasia is a very beautiful black woman). There are those who claim to defend men but use anti-women rhetoric to justify their views. You don't have to defend the dignity of men to bash women. Bashing women is anti-men, and bashing men is anti-women because we all are human beings coming from the same origin as people. Promoting self-accountability, giving advice, and promoting growth aren't bashing, but dehumanization, false generalizations, hatred, and outright lies are examples of bashing. Crimson cure is a woman who bashes women (She is disappointing as she knows full well of tons of black women about the life of building, caring, and honoring black liberation). Justpearlythings is another white racist woman who bashes women too via redpill propaganda. The elite-engineered gender war nonsense is headed not only by white racist men, but white racist women too. Racist white women try to tickle the ears of sellout black people in order to be part of the program of self-hatred, nihilism, and in the end the destruction of their souls. Therefore, we have to know who the enemy is (which is the racist & corporate, international power structure), we can't underestimate evil people, and we will promote the truth of Black Love. What does a divestor mean? Divestors are different from most people involved in interracial relationships or non-interracial relationships because they have a love for a human being. Divestors are people who date and marry the opposite sex of another race because they believe in the myth that a black person of the opposite sex collectively is inferior intellectually or socially to non-black people. To many divestors and many manosphere types, white folks (and non-black people in general) are infallible culturally and socially which is blatantly part of self-hatred.
They have a hostility to not only Black Love but the black community in general. Divestors, MGTOW, and passport bros (who are wrong to stereotype American black women as collectively inconsiderate, aggressive, not progressive enough to date a gentleman, and disrespectful so they date women overseas with a passport) have differences, but they are similar in having stereotypes about black Americans of the opposite sex, having no concern of promoting black liberation (they don't talk about the need to help black women with maternity disparities, and they don't talk about the need to deal with many black men and mental health issues), and some don't care if the black community becomes extinct. Divestors and Manosphere agents don't talk about black women heroes, black men heroes, or making solutions to uplift the black community by legitimate means. This is extreme madness from red pill and divestors, but we don't have to follow the path of extinction. We want black people to grow and flourish in future generations and part of that is by building up black families including the growth of the black population in general.
Epilogue
Now, we know the problems and what are the solutions? The solution is multifaceted. First, it's our responsibility as adults to do the right thing and to teach boys and girls the basics about responsibility, accountability, ethics, autonomy, consent, integrity, and positive social conduct that helps communities. We have to teach them when they are young that human autonomy and consent will always be important to live by and promote. Second, a holistic culture must be advanced where men and women have the right to pursue their dreams without oppression, without discrimination, and without bigotry or racism of any kind. It is important to note that it is not your responsibility to involuntarily redeem the soul of a struggling person. It is that person's responsibility to heal and be a better person for themselves. You can give people advice, encouragement, stand with that person when they ask for help, and give that person resources voluntarily, but ultimately, that person has to make that conscious decision to heal and improve their own lives. In the final analysis empathy and coddling aren't identical. We have to advocate for laws and policies to eliminate structures of oppression and discrimination. The more evil systems are gone, the more all humans benefit, regardless of sex. Mentorships and programs of uplift must be available for boys, girls, men, and women to cater to their needs and aspirations. Historically, many role models have saved the lives of men and women for centuries and thousands of years. Role models matter. Also, more men have to be allies to women and other oppressed groups not only by words but by deeds. Those deeds are about mentoring a young woman in a job or a young black person (or young person of any background), standing up against sexist speech in public and in private (whether in Internet forums or in the street), showing respect to any human being, and investing time to cultivate a culture of tolerance, excellence, and human dignity. We want any human being to be free and express their talents to the world safely.
Consent matters. No one is entitled to a relationship. No one is entitled to sex. People have the right to be attracted to and date who they want (among consenting adults). No one is entitled to any human's body. We are entitled to liberty, justice, equality, and the pursuit of happiness. That principle and the Golden Rule must always be lived on a daily basis. Building better relationships does require self-reflection, learning how to undue pass trauma (even going to therapy if necessary), and building yourself up emotionally. One major solution in ending gender war nonsense is honest communication among men and women about our issues, aspirations, and dreams without personal attacks. Honest dialogue forming common ground will go a long way than WWE fake ad hominem attack nonsense. We need to further invest in programs helping girls and women to pursue STEM Fields, other jobs, and other methods for them to reach their goals in life. Improving oneself should be about you doing it, not to fulfill some fantasy of revenge or egoism. Being better (emotionally, health-wise, intellectually, financially, socially, and spiritually) makes you feel better in every aspect of human living. It is important to note that numerous evil people exploit the legitimate issue of love and relationships to dehumanize or disrespect people who are of different physical appearances. We don't do that because we believe that beauty is diverse, not monolithic. We all oppose colorism, lookism, and featurism period. We don't believe in disrespecting and dehumanizing anyone of a different physical appearance, color, sex, or background. All people are born equal and are entitled to respect, dignity, life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Relationships should be about mutual respect and mutual love, not a case of letting negative baggage toxify a relationship. Relationships reflect commonality and dating people with similar interests and personalities can work. It's cliche but being yourself matters. Most people will respect you more if you're authentically you than if you fake an image to the world. Life is never easy, but life is not impossible to live a better life than the past. Treating people with dignity and respects shines a great light from Almighty God on you.
AT THE END OF THE DAY, GREAT ADVICE FOR MEN AND WOMEN IS TO:
BE YOU
DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR BEING YOU
NEVER GIVE UP, RESPECT YOURSELF, DEFEND YOUR DIGNITY, LOVE TRUTH, TREAT PEOPLE WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT, AND SHINE YOUR LIGHT
WE LIVE IN ONE LIFE AND BEING TRUE TO YOU (ALONG WITH TREATING PEOPLE RIGHT) IS A BLESSING.
By Timothy
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