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Dark Matter Says:
October 30, 2012 at 8:54 pm
I have really enjoyed your coverage of the Cleveland incident and other topics related to the mistreatment and/or devaluing of black females. I still have some confusion when it comes to black males using excessive force or physically abusing black females. It seems to me like some of the black males and black females who agree that black males should hit, punch, strike or otherwise physically assault black females is because they need to be put in their place or disciplined because they are being too aggressive, talking too much, or being disrespectful and the male has the right to make the women obey or learn. In my experience these individuals also seem to have this same view when it comes to children. Such as children need to be beat, hit, whipped as a form of discipline or teach respect, intimidate, control etc. It seems like there is a correlation between males who abuse females and males who abuse children and females who abuse children. It seems to be the view that adults or males have the right to abuse children and females because they are above them or stronger than them and they can take out their anger on these individuals because they cannot fight back. There also seems to be some sort of radical or extreme feminist viewpoint that there should be no special treatment of females by males because females can fight in wars, be hit, be punched, fight and do anything that a male can do because there is supposedly no difference between males and females. Since females want to be treated equally they should not want to be protected by males. Then mixed in with the above viewpoints is the colorism, the supposedly aggressive and masculine nature of black females and the lack of protection provided to black females. I am confused as to which one of these issues is the cause of this behavior is it all the same or is one part more important than the other? I am also aware that it in the past it was more common for parents to teach their sons not to hit girls. I did hear adults tell boys not to hit girls and in my family it was not seen as acceptable for males to hit females. But up until reading your analysis of the bus incident on your blog and blog talk radio and thinking more about counter racism in the past couple of years I did not see anything wrong with a male hitting a female.It does not seem like protection of females or not hitting females is promoted as much as it used to be. I have made a big effort in my opinion to keep from supporting those who mistreat black females. I do not buy music , movies , clothes that support that or magazines that supports mistreatment of black females and males. In the past couple of years I have stopped viewing blogs that promote mistreatment towards black individuals and especially black females.
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CREE-EIGHT Says:
October 31, 2012 at 12:03 pm
Long tome no hear, Dark Matter!!!! That is a very needed insight. The idea that might makes right makes for winners and losers but not justice. Black people cling feverishly to our right to hit our offspring in the same way that black we (both male and female) seem to cling to the right of males to females who are “acting up.” This is the reason, I think, for the persistent popularity of Shahrazad Ali’s book, The Blackman’s Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman.” It’s got a non-fictional dose of Celie’s advice to Harpo to “hit her!”
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Kushite Prince Says:
November 1, 2012 at 10:59 am
Thanks for the kind words. As I said before this is an issue black men can’t ignore. We have to confront the issue of physical and sexual abuse in our community. I know some brothers who have been called a “mangina” for protecting our women. There’s nothing soft or weak about standing up for your women and children. That’s what a real husband/father is supposed to do. It doesn’t mean you’re henpecked or let your woman walk all over you. That’s an entirely different thing. A relationship is supposed to be a cooperation between two people. The male and female principles are supposed to compliment each other.
I think as black men we need the help of black women to take on racism. We can’t do it alone. But we have to show black women that we will stand and fight for them. I think sistas feel hurt when brothers take delight in videos such as the bus and Lil Reese. I think this maybe the reason some sistas are turning to white men. I think only ignorant men would allow the Original woman to be so disgusted with them that she chooses to now remove herself from the very first family and seeks the love of what used to be foreign arms. As a whole I think black people don’t realize that living under the system of WS has made us turn on one another. We seem to be too bitter and disagreeable to do anything to stop it. Black men will have to challenge other black men if we want this problem of violence resolved. Just because we as black men are oppressed–does not mean we should be allowed to abuse our women. If anything we should be more empathic to this issue. But I only have a few male friends and co workers who agree with me. Cree,something has to change. We have to get our minds right. As I look at our people, I feel as though our level of mental impotence is now at the point of absolute insanity. But Im still optimistic when I read blogs like yours,the Cows and Pam’s new blog. We’ll beat this thing–or die trying.
Stay blessed. Your brother,KP
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